Does Reality TV Influence Our Perception of Romance?

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Reality television programs are anything but real. Shows that depict romantic relationships or the pursuit thereof—such as The Bachelor and Real Housewives—reveal fantasy lives filled with high-octane intimacy, infidelity, and unrealistic ideals. These factors seem to add to the appeal for many people. But do these portrayals influence people’s expectations of their own, real-life relationships? Yes and no, according to a study conducted by Jeremy Osborn of Albion College in Michigan.

Osborn surveyed almost 400 married people to find out if their perceptions of relationship satisfaction and commitment were affected by what they viewed online, on television, and in movies. He found that those who believed in fictitious romance had a lower sense of relationship commitment. They expressed concerns about the high cost of losing their independence and having to sacrifice their own interests for those of their partner. Because they viewed the price of relationship commitment to be high, they also placed relationship satisfaction at a premium. This could explain, in part, why the reality romance supporters had the same level of relationship satisfaction as those who did not believe in reality romance.

Perhaps people who view relationships as emotionally costly expect more from their relationships than people who view their relationships as less emotionally expensive. In fact, if someone anticipates having to invest quite a bit into a partnership, he or she probably expects a large return. Therefore, those who see romantic relationships as requiring a big injection of time and effort may value the outcome of their efforts differently than people who do not approach relationships the same way. However, Osborn cautions that commitment is a key element to relationship satisfaction and that culture’s definition of relationships, as manifested in the media, does not demonstrate that. “We live in a society that perpetually immerses itself in media images from both TV and the web, but most people have no sense of the ways those images are impacting them,” Osborn said. Because marriage failures are holding steady in the United States, he believes it is imperative that couples take a good, long look at how everything, including reality TV, affects their relationships.

Reference:
Gannon, Megan. Commitment harder for those who watch TV romances, study claims. (n.d.): n. pag. The Huffington Post. 19 Sept. 2012. Web. 19 Sept. 2012. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/09/19/commitment-issues-tv-romances_n_1896784.html

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  • lena

    October 4th, 2012 at 11:16 AM

    oh good Lord I sure hope we don’t go around judging our own relationships based on the crap we see on tv. “reality” tv is the worst misnomer that was ever created!

  • Macie

    October 4th, 2012 at 3:36 PM

    The first line sums it up for me.Reality TV romance is made up and is only providing people with illusions.If you try and seek that in real life its just not going to work.It will ultimately bring problems to you and your relationship.

  • Shayla

    October 4th, 2012 at 3:59 PM

    I guess I am kind of embarassed to admit this but I know that there have been times when I have let movies and TV shows influence the way I feel about my boyfriend. I want him ot measure up to what I see on the screen, and I know that I have held it against him when in my mind he doesn’t.

    Why do I do this? Why do I choose to sabotage something that is perfectly good and normal and hold it up against something that really is in no way related to reality? Producers and directors have set us up for this- I say that when I am thinking about things rationally I know that reality doesn’t have a producer or a director.

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