Therapy For Abusive Mothers: What Makes a Difference?

For adults who were physically or verbally abused as children, psychotherapy is an important step in working through the difficult emotions these experiences have created. But what about children currently living with an abusive parent? Providing one-on-one therapy, parenting coaching, and emotional support to abusive mothers drastically improves their parenting skills and treatment of their children, a new Texas study has shown. Many programs like Project Support exist in states around the country, but little research has been done to document how such programs compare to traditional child welfare services. The study, which followed a small group of single mothers in similar financial situations, was published in the Journal of Family Psychology.

Project Support was established in 1996 and was designed to help children in violent families by altering the parents’ behavior. Traditional child welfare services in Texas tend to vary, but include pre-recorded parenting lessons, community parenting classes, individual counseling, family counseling, anger management work, GED classes, and contact with a social worker. Project Support goes a step further. With Project Support, mental health professionals visit a family’s home weekly for as long as six months. Parents are taught 12 specific parenting skills, including how to give positive attention and praise, how to play with and pay attention to their children, how to comfort and listen to their children, how to give appropriate commands or instructions, and how to handle bad behavior. Parents also worked with therapists on how to provide the best environment for their children through limited income and available local and state resources.

The results were highly successful. For families in the control group, receiving conventional child welfare services, 28 percent were again referred to social services for abuse, but for families participating in Project Support, that rate was just 5.9 percent, a 78% reduction. The study’s leaders hope that documenting the success of the program will lead to an increase in similar programs nationwide.

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  • Jen

    August 1st, 2010 at 9:57 AM

    I am sorry but there are just too many times that I hear abusive parents blame their behavior on what they themselves experienced as a child. It is time to grow up people. You may have had to face some tough stuff when you were growing up- we all did if you want to know the truth of the matter. But you know what? You chose to have kids and it is time to leave all of the crap that you grew up with behind. You know what it takes to be a good parent, and you may not have money but anyone with half a brain can know that a child needs love and not contempt. Enough with the excuses and grow up. I am tired of hearing baout kids who have to suffer because their parents can’t get over it.

  • Adrian

    August 1st, 2010 at 2:51 PM

    Parents learn to be parents primarily from their own, Jen. It’s not crap at all. They have learned a certain way of parenting and that’s what they have to UNLEARN before they can change. Have you ever tried to change something about yourself or your thinking that you don’t like and failed? Found yourself saying something to your own kids that your parents used to say to you, which you swore to yourself you never would? Then you’ll know how hard it is to get rid of lifelong habits and what’s instilled in you in childhood. Growing up has nothing to do with it.

  • estelle

    August 1st, 2010 at 5:12 PM

    Can’t you at least give the mothers credit for wanting to participate in this therapy program? That makes it clear that they are unhappy with their own behavior too and willing to learn how to parent their children that doesn’t involve child abuse of any kind. Go, Texas!

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