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When It All Falls Apart: Trauma’s Impact on Intimate Relationships
When something traumatic happens, the result can be the development of a variety of symptoms that impair a person’s ability to function. These symptoms reverberate beyond the person who ... Read More
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The Devaluation of the Person in Therapy
Editor’s note: This article is the first in a series exploring why use of the term “patient” is harmful in the context of psychotherapy. For an introduction on the topic, click here. The ... Read More
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Gender Identity, Shame, and the Search for Authenticity
Recently I was walking through the grocery store, stopped in the deodorant section, and found myself dismayed. The women’s deodorants didn’t appeal to me at all—too pink, too ... Read More
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The Grief of Joy: When Feelings of Loss Accompany Happy Transitions
We are familiar with the grief associated with death. Denial, anger, and acceptance are part of the grieving process as it pertains to death. But what about grief that is unconnected to ... Read More
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Should We Abolish the Diagnosis of Borderline Personality?
The diagnosis of “borderline personality disorder” carries profound stigma for many people. Even some mental health professionals use the term pejoratively, which is not difficult considering ... Read More
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Selfishness, Guilt, and Separation: When Parents Take Precedence
“You’re so selfish!” I hear this phrase too frequently when working with people who have trouble with separation and individuation. When children hear from their parents that they ... Read More
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Wounded Attachment: Relationships of Survivors of Childhood Sexual Assault
In my work with adult survivors of sexual assault, I am beginning to notice a pattern of behavior that I have termed “wounded attachment.” The impact of childhood sexual assault has ... Read More
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5 Tips for Co-Parenting When You Can’t Stand Your Ex
The process of divorce is hard enough, but when you have to co-parent with an ex who has become the bane of your existence, things can get worse. Some parents become better at being caregivers ... Read More
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Hidden Depression Among Us
You may know someone who is depressed and not know they’re depressed. People expect someone who is depressed to cry a lot, stay in bed all day, mope, or sound like Eeyore from Winnie ... Read More
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‘Stopping at the Buzz’: How to Control Your Drinking
In my practice as an addiction psychologist, it’s probably the most common question I encounter; when it comes right down to it, it’s what most people who are struggling ... Read More
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Deep Breathing and Guided Imagery for Anxiety
In counseling, many of the ways to address anger can also be used as tools to address anxiety. Deep breathing is one such tool. Getting that full, deep breath of oxygen will indeed help ... Read More
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Learning to Accept Love After Experiencing Trauma
Love is one of the most elemental of emotions. It is a building block of some of our deepest relationships and a component in many of our happiest days. Yet the ability to freely give and ... Read More