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How Parents Can Support a Child with Gender Dysphoria
Parents searching for a safe place for their transgender, gender nonconforming, or nonbinary child usually have a lot of questions. One of the first things parents who reach out to me ask ... Read More
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3 Things Your Therapist Wants You to Do Before Couples Therapy Begins
From my many years as a couples therapist, I have learned one of the most difficult phases of the work is when a couple has committed to repairing your marriage, but before the repair has ... Read More
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‘How Does That Make You Feel?’ Why Your Therapist Is Asking
It’s one of the most important questions in therapy. It’s stereotypical. Sometimes, it’s disruptive. It can lead to anxiety and self-examination. And it’s not going away. Your therapist ... Read More
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4 Stages of Emotions and Treatment After Sexual Trauma
There may be many emotions to sort through after experiencing sexual trauma. These emotions are typically painful, so it is natural to want to avoid them. The problem is, these emotions ... Read More
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A Flashlight in the Darkness: Honoring Pain and Loss
The news is so full of dark and scary stories these days that it can be overwhelming. I, for one, find it troubling to hear about repeated shootings where innocent lives are taken, the ... Read More
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What’s Wrong with Us? 4 Ways to Get Your Relationship Back on Track
So you’ve been in this relationship for a while. And nothing is inherently wrong with it. But you occasionally look at your partner and wonder if it could be more. Maybe you compare your ... Read More
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How to Overcome Emotional Repression in Your Relationship
What feelings were denied you as a child? Did your parents or caregivers say: “I don’t ever want to hear those words again” in response to your anger? “I’ll give you something ... Read More
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7 Steps to Overcome the Pain of Rejection When a Partner Leaves
Our first therapy session began … The day I found her text on my husband’s phone is a day I will never forget. My whole life changed in an instant. I was stunned and in disbelief. I ... Read More
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Want Greater Peace of Mind? Learn to Ignore More and Let Things Go
In Kundalini yoga there is a practice called the Ego Eradicator. To do it, you raise your hands, put them in a specific position called a mudra, and begin a long series of sharp exhalations ... Read More
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10 Things You Should Know Before Starting Therapy
Dear new client: Welcome to the wonderful world of therapy! I know it can be hard to come in for your first appointment—really hard. You are here to meet me, a stranger who will hear ... Read More
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5 Tips for Talking to Children About Sexual Abuse
As much as we would love to envelop our kids in bubble wrap and follow them around everywhere, our job is ultimately to teach them to take care of and stand up for themselves. In recognition ... Read More
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Why Do I Feel This Way? Over-Coupling and the Stress Response
“I don’t know why, but every time I start dating someone new, I lose interest after three or four dates—even if they are really cool.” “This time of year just makes me miserable. ... Read More