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How to Avoid Letting Social Anxiety Strain Your Relationship
It is quite common to fall in love with someone who possesses qualities that balance out your own. The phrase “opposites attract” describes exactly that. There are many ways in which ... Read More
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How Leaning Into Your Anxiety Can Help You Manage It
When people call my office looking for relief from their anxiety, I explain that we all experience anxiety from time to time because our bodies are wired for it. It’s a neurobiological ... Read More
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12 Secrets to Teaching Your Child How to Manage Their Emotions
Giving children coping skills for their emotions is one of the most important tasks of parenting. Children lacking these tools may blame others for how they feel or demonstrate how they’re ... Read More
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Sensate Focus: Getting Out of Your Head and Into Your Body During Sex
Sensate focus, developed by Masters and Johnson in the 1960s, is a technique that has been used by sex therapists for many years to help couples and individuals overcome a range of sexual ... Read More
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It Needs to Happen, but the Idea of Creating a Will Makes Me Anxious
Dear GoodTherapy.org, I’ve managed to get to age 66 without writing a will. The thought has always terrified me, but now it’s more real than ever. As my kids start (gently) pressuring ... Read More
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Dissociation and C-PTSD: The Role of Detachment in Complex Trauma
Dissociation was first described more than a century ago. It was not until more recently, though, that the concept became a standard part of the psychological lexicon. For many people, ... Read More
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Keeping Faith: Gender Identity, Sexual Orientation, and Spirituality
Many of us are raised to follow a particular religion, and many of those religions have some negative messages about sexual and gender diversity. These early religious messages can have ... Read More
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Look to the Future: How Attachment Affects Our Ability to Plan Ahead
Everyone has some sense of their future, and the way that sense is experienced may have an impact on whether a person is successful or not. Does your future feel threatening or promising? ... Read More
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How to Recognize and Reconnect with Split-Off Parts of Yourself
Some of the most powerful work I have seen accomplished in therapy involves a person reclaiming parts of themselves that they have disowned. Splitting off parts of ourselves, specifically ... Read More
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Help! I’m Having Second Thoughts About Quitting My Job
Dear GoodTherapy.org, I left my job about two months ago, run-down and on the brink of something drastic because of how miserable I was. It was an extremely high-stress job in finance, ... Read More
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How Perseverance and Resilience Relate to the Window of Tolerance
In my work, I’ve found certain frameworks to be helpful for understanding and perceiving our sense of balance and wellness. To illustrate this, let’s consider the following two ... Read More
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How Gendered Marketing, Sexism Can Impact Halloween Costume Choices
When I was 13 years old, I was a huge fan of “I Dream of Jeannie,” a show from the 1960s about a female genie who lives with her male “master” in his suburban home in the United ... Read More