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Why Do We Ignore the Red Flags in Our Relationships?
I hear from so many men and women whose marriages and relationships are in crisis. “How did I get here?” they wonder. We all know it takes two to tango. What we may overlook is our ... Read More
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Aging as a Couple: Will You Grow Together or Grow Apart?
I’m always happy when couples tell me they’ve been together for 30 or 40 years, even if they happen to be in my office because of a relationship issue. Like aging, relationship issues ... Read More
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What Can I Do About My Terrible Road Rage?
Dear GoodTherapy.org, I figured it was time to write in with this question since I just got out of my car shaking with anger for the third time this week. I’m not sure whether my ... Read More
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Remaining Present Through Both Joy and Sorrow
“In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert’s there are few.” ―Shunryu Suzuki To view life with a beginner’s mind is to look at the world through ... Read More
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Change Without Shame: Exploring the Arousal Template
At times, the people I work with in therapy ask questions that lead to rich exploration of their intimate lives. Years ago, Marty (not his real name) burst into my office wondering, “Why ... Read More
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How DBT Can Improve Your Communication Outcomes
In today’s world, it is hard to stay truly connected with others. We are so used to our digital, screen-to-screen interactions that having in-person, face-to-face conversations can ... Read More
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Why Do I Repeat My Parents’ Hurtful Behavior with Others?
Maddy: “I hate myself. I’m just like my mother. She always bossed my father around and was so controlling with me and my brother. Now I do the same things with my husband and kids. ... Read More
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Is It Domestic Violence If I Am Not Being Hit?
Many people struggle to understand how our culture defines domestic violence. Some believe that to constitute domestic violence, a person must be beaten or violently struck in some way. ... Read More
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Lessons in Loss: What We Can Learn from Grief
Dealing with grief and loss is a reality we all must confront at some point. The experience of grief is different for everyone, and it has no timetable. Grieving, however, is a necessary ... Read More
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How Therapy Helps Heal the Scars of Childhood Bullying
The world is full of people who survived the experience of being bullied while growing up. The wounds bullying can inflict on one’s self-esteem can ooze throughout life. Sticks and stones ... Read More
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How Taking Ownership Builds Connection in a Relationship
Let’s face it: relationships are complicated. Each person brings their own history of conscious and unconscious needs and fears to the table, and these needs and fears are often contradictory. ... Read More
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Tuning In: Mindful Music Listening to Reduce Stress
Stress has a way of upending our lives—it can cause tension in our relationships, anxiety in our thoughts, and tightness in our bodies. You may have a self-care practice in place, or ... Read More