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Self-Esteem Growth: Stay True to Your Roots, Not Your Leaves
If I asked whether you spend most of your day feeling cool and confident, you’d probably laugh at me, right? We’re all constantly working on knowing who we are and feeling OK about ... Read More
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‘I’ Messages: How Removing ‘You’ Can Change a Conversation
Assertive communication is a style of speaking in which the goal is to take care of your needs while also showing the other party mutual respect. An important form of assertive communication ... Read More
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Transformative Grief, Part I: The Art of Bending and Breaking
During a recent therapy session, I had a profound exchange with a man about how, months after the tragic loss of his sister, grief is changing him in ways that feel important and meaningful. There ... Read More
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No Going Back After Divorce: 4 Steps to Release Your Regret
When your life doesn’t go as planned, it’s natural to look back with regret. Experiences and time spent seem like a waste when you’re robbed of the opportunity to finish what you ... Read More
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How to Recognize and Overcome Childhood Emotional Neglect
Because it’s mostly silent and invisible, childhood emotional neglect is largely an overlooked phenomenon in psychology. Unlike physical neglect or abuse, where there are signs such as ... Read More
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Inspiring Your Own Joy: The Lessons of Pixar’s ‘Inside Out’
Someone I’m working with in therapy recently asked me whether I’ve seen Pixar’s Inside Out. Shortly after, a friend of mine asked the same question, saying, “You would love it. ... Read More
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5 Potent Relational Dynamics at Play in Power Differentials
“I feel like I am not listened to and that what I say doesn’t count.” “I feel humiliated for speaking up.” “I’m afraid of losing my job if I am ... Read More
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What to Do When Your Anger Feels Out of Control
Healthy anger requires self-awareness, open communication, and the ability to self-soothe. When you can clearly describe your thoughts and feelings, be open to alternative perspectives, ... Read More
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5 Reasons It’s Good to Be Gay and Single
Let’s all be real for a moment and face the fact there is often a lot of pressure from friends, family, coworkers, and others for a gay person to be in a relationship, especially now ... Read More
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The Cost of Caring: 10 Ways to Prevent Compassion Fatigue
Compassion fatigue can be a serious occupational hazard for those in any kind of helping profession, with a majority of those in the field reporting experiencing at least some degree of ... Read More
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A Healing Response to Pain: Mindfulness and Self-Compassion
How do you react when you’re in pain? Do you resist it, ignore it, or push it away? Do you get consumed by it? Would you like to learn a more healing and compassionate way to respond? To ... Read More
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Second Time Around: The Transition from One to Two Children
There are few events in life that are as transformative as becoming a parent. So many aspects of your life—your identity, the dynamics with your partner, your sense of control (or lack ... Read More