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Emotional Hijacking: How Connecting to Old Hurts Heals Us
The key to having freedom and joy in our lives stems directly from managing our emotions rationally and effectively. Practicing emotional intelligence keeps us intimately connected with ... Read More
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How to Tell Your Partner You Have a Crush on Someone Else
I recently wrote about pornography use and how it doesn’t necessarily or even usually signify impending doom for a relationship. Some of the responses to the article surprised me—not ... Read More
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Why It’s Good to Hate Your Kids
Many years ago, before I had children, I worked with a parent who confided that she would sometimes get so frustrated with her baby that she fantasized about throwing him out the window. ... Read More
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Mindfulness Meditation and Trauma: Proceed with Caution
As Roger—not his real name—sensed his body, he began to notice a deep contraction in his heart that pained him deeply. He had been hearing from his meditation teachers that he had to ... Read More
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The Masks We Wear: Could They Be Good for Us?
There are times when we aren’t necessarily our best selves—times when we’re tired or cranky, feeling less than capable, unsure which direction to turn, anxious, or just plain “off.” ... Read More
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How to Help an Aging Parent with Depression
As the human lifespan grows, many people are now living well into their eighties and nineties. That’s wonderful news, but it comes with new challenges. One of them is the challenge of ... Read More
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5 Good Reasons to Chart Your Mood Changes
We all have emotions and moods. Some people have very even temperaments and their moods are mostly stable. Others can go from happy to anxious to depressed to euthymic quite quickly. Everyone ... Read More
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Big T and Little t Trauma and How Your Body Reacts to It
Trauma can be defined as an event that falls outside the range of usual human experience that causes distress. Trauma can be either human-made or from natural causes. Examples of human-made ... Read More
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We Need to Talk about Domestic Violence in Our Communities
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. The more we talk about domestic violence, the more likely it becomes that we build awareness, identify abusive behaviors, and take action to ... Read More
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When You Love Your Kids but Don’t Love Motherhood
If you are a mother, you have probably experienced at least one day (if not many) when you wondered if you were cut out for the job of parenting. Mothering is hard work. Even on our best ... Read More
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What’s So Great About Group Therapy, Anyway?
I was at a party chatting with a stranger when he asked me what sort of work I do. I told him I am a marriage and family therapist who specializes in group therapy. “Group therapy!” ... Read More
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Common Procrastination Causes and How to Break the Cycle
Many people who frequently procrastinate don’t endorse their own behavior or speak about it proudly. Many who experience repeated procrastination want to change. This desire and motivation ... Read More