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Anger 101: Making Peace with Your Angry Feelings
The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in. —Rumi Growing up, we are formally taught for at least 13 years how to read, write, and perform ... Read More
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9 Signs It’s Time to Slow Down
“Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” This recognizable quote from the movie Ferris Bueller’s Day Off can be helpful to ... Read More
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How to Get Back on Track When You’ve Lost Your Motivation
When your “get up and go” has “got up and left,” when there’s no more “pep” left in your step, sometimes the best thing you can do is just stop trying for a while. Moving ... Read More
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When Compliance in Childhood Haunts You in Adulthood
What I am going to describe is what can happen when children grow up and begin to realize that they are not living their lives according to their own wishes and desires. They start to recognize ... Read More
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Feeling Felt: The Importance of Adoption Support Groups
“They say they understand, but how can someone who wasn’t adopted know what it feels like?” Sixteen-year-old Lisa’s voice trails off as she explains the many frustrating conversations ... Read More
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5 Relationship Clichés That May Help You and Your Partner
When it comes to relationships, many clichés exist for a good reason: a lot of them are true. Making and keeping long-term connections is, of course, some of the oldest and hardest work ... Read More
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When a Pet Dies: How to Help Your Child through Grief
Last week, our cat died. Frodo was a stray tomcat we took in 11 years ago. We weren’t sure about his age, though we’re guessing he lived to be about 14 years old. He didn’t show ... Read More
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Closer to Closure: 10 Tips for Moving On After Getting Dumped
Breakups are often a painful ordeal, but the pain is all the more excruciating when you don’t see it coming. You thought things were going great, and then seemingly out of nowhere ... Read More
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Listen Up: Why You Don’t Feel Heard in Your Relationship
I received a call from a woman the other day in my office. She wanted to start couples therapy with her husband of 10 years. As I inquired about what was going on, I quickly learned that ... Read More
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When a Father Leaves: Adolescence and Abandonment
If her heart is broken, maybe it’s because her father broke it first. Her inability to accept herself is probably because he told her that she would never be good enough for anyone or ... Read More
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A Family Systems Pizza: Self-Differentiation and Extra Cheese
The key to tasty pizza is for each part—the crust, the sauce, the cheese, and the toppings—to be unique and distinct, but to blend into a well-balanced and delicious whole. Live life ... Read More
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Is Your Gifted Child Being Bullied? 5 Ways to Help
Gifted children may be at a higher risk for being bullied than their more neurotypical peers. The risk factors for bullying victims are similar to many traits prevalent within the intellectually ... Read More