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3 Things Your Therapist Wants You to Do Before Couples Therapy Begins
From my many years as a couples therapist, I have learned one of the most difficult phases of the work is when a couple has committed to repairing your marriage, but before the repair has ... Read More
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4 Stages of Emotions and Treatment After Sexual Trauma
There may be many emotions to sort through after experiencing sexual trauma. These emotions are typically painful, so it is natural to want to avoid them. The problem is, these emotions ... Read More
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A Flashlight in the Darkness: Honoring Pain and Loss
The news is so full of dark and scary stories these days that it can be overwhelming. I, for one, find it troubling to hear about repeated shootings where innocent lives are taken, the ... Read More
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What’s Wrong with Us? 4 Ways to Get Your Relationship Back on Track
So you’ve been in this relationship for a while. And nothing is inherently wrong with it. But you occasionally look at your partner and wonder if it could be more. Maybe you compare your ... Read More
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How to Overcome Emotional Repression in Your Relationship
What feelings were denied you as a child? Did your parents or caregivers say: “I don’t ever want to hear those words again” in response to your anger? “I’ll give you something ... Read More
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7 Steps to Overcome the Pain of Rejection When a Partner Leaves
Our first therapy session began … The day I found her text on my husband’s phone is a day I will never forget. My whole life changed in an instant. I was stunned and in disbelief. I ... Read More
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5 Tips for Talking to Children About Sexual Abuse
As much as we would love to envelop our kids in bubble wrap and follow them around everywhere, our job is ultimately to teach them to take care of and stand up for themselves. In recognition ... Read More
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Why Do I Feel This Way? Over-Coupling and the Stress Response
“I don’t know why, but every time I start dating someone new, I lose interest after three or four dates—even if they are really cool.” “This time of year just makes me miserable. ... Read More
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Secrets of Self-Esteem: How to Work on Loving Yourself
Some sayings might be well-intended, but that doesn’t make them true, let alone easy to hear. Case in point: “You can’t find love until you learn to love yourself.” The people ... Read More
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Stress and Emotional Eating: Exploring Our Relationship with Food
For many of us, stress is a fundamental part of life. Perhaps we tend to overextend ourselves with work, social commitments, and our personal lives. Or maybe we never turn off our many ... Read More
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5 Defense Mechanisms That Both Protect and Hurt Us
Every day, we are bombarded by situations, people, and feelings that have the potential to stress us out. We all have our own ways of dealing with this stress. Some of them are helpful, ... Read More
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Relational Hurt or Attachment Injury? How to Tell the Difference
If you have ever been in a relationship, you have experienced hurt. It is inevitable. Even when two people have a connected, secure, and healthy relationship, they will experience hurt ... Read More