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Keeping Faith: Gender Identity, Sexual Orientation, and Spirituality
Many of us are raised to follow a particular religion, and many of those religions have some negative messages about sexual and gender diversity. These early religious messages can have ... Read More
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Domestic Abuse and Intimate Partner Violence in Affluent Couples
Domestic abuse/violence, also known as intimate partner abuse/violence, is not a new phenomenon. We’ve studied families whose relationships include verbal abuse, emotional abuse, and/or ... Read More
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Look to the Future: How Attachment Affects Our Ability to Plan Ahead
Everyone has some sense of their future, and the way that sense is experienced may have an impact on whether a person is successful or not. Does your future feel threatening or promising? ... Read More
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How to Recognize and Reconnect with Split-Off Parts of Yourself
Some of the most powerful work I have seen accomplished in therapy involves a person reclaiming parts of themselves that they have disowned. Splitting off parts of ourselves, specifically ... Read More
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How Perseverance and Resilience Relate to the Window of Tolerance
In my work, I’ve found certain frameworks to be helpful for understanding and perceiving our sense of balance and wellness. To illustrate this, let’s consider the following two ... Read More
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How Gendered Marketing, Sexism Can Impact Halloween Costume Choices
When I was 13 years old, I was a huge fan of “I Dream of Jeannie,” a show from the 1960s about a female genie who lives with her male “master” in his suburban home in the United ... Read More
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Are You Paralyzed by Overwhelming Feelings? Stop Procrastinating
Many of us linger on the things we wish we could do better, more frequently, or at all. Sometimes, we find ourselves feeling “stuck” and unable to move forward—or in any direction. ... Read More
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Where Do You Fall on the Spectrum of Alcohol Use?
Not everyone who drinks alcohol has a drinking problem. Most people fall on a continuum of alcohol use throughout their lives. An increase in alcohol use and problems associated with it ... Read More
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Study Links School Shootings to Male Gender Role Pressure
School shooters may feel unable to live up to their school’s masculine norms, according to a study published in the journal Gender Issues. All 29 of the shootings the study identified ... Read More
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Emotional Connection: The Secret to Lasting Love
Emotional connection, a bond that holds partners together in a relationship, is one of the most important strengths for couples to have. Without a strong emotional connection, relationships ... Read More
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Your Children Can’t Give Back the Trust You’ve Lost in Them
In my office, I hear angry parents snap in frustration at their kids. “You broke my trust!” “You have to earn my trust back!” “You’ve got to rebuild my trust!” These parents ... Read More
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Recovering from Infidelity: Why Does Forgiveness Feel So Dangerous?
I believe infidelity is one of the most difficult challenges a couple can experience and attempt to recover from. In my work with people who have experienced infidelity—who may still ... Read More