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Apologizing with Intention: 4 Reasons Your Apology Didn’t Work
Recently, I sat in session with a married couple named Dara and Mike. Speaking to one of the issues that brought them to therapy, Dara said, “Every time I tell him I don’t feel like ... Read More
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Narcissistic Needs and Self-Esteem: Why Narcissism Isn’t All Bad
“You’re such a narcissist!” If you’ve ever caught yourself saying that to someone you love, you know it’s never a compliment. “Narcissist” can be an all-purpose put-down that ... Read More
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Sex and Playfulness: Remaining Connected in Monogamous Relationships
How can a committed couple in a monogamous relationship have an active and fulfilling sex life? This topic comes up regularly with people I see in treatment. Couples in my office practice ... Read More
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The Vicious Cycle of Posttraumatic Stress: 4 Cornerstones of PTSD
Although posttraumatic stress (PTSD) tends to be the issue that most often comes to mind when we consider trauma, there are a number of other responses, including depression, anxiety, substance ... Read More
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Psychotherapy for Your Body: The Role of Somatic Psychology Today
A racing heart and a roiling stomach. Panic attacks, nightmares, or fatigue. The body has myriad ways to manifest the many faces of trauma and fear. And for many people, getting help to ... Read More
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Alcohol and Trauma: Drinking as a Way to Cope with the Past
Did you know one of the main predictors for having a substance use disorder is experiencing trauma? A quick internet search yields many definitions of trauma. I think the simplest definition ... Read More
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4 Ways to Get the Most Out of Couples Therapy
What makes couples therapy successful? I’ve see couples move from relationship nightmare to healthy and happy within six months of counseling. In many cases, by the time the couple ends ... Read More
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Talking and Writing About Suicide: Why It Matters, What to Say
In 2017, the suicide rate reached a 33-year high. Suicide is now the second-leading cause of death among teenagers, and an American dies by suicide every 12.8 minutes. Deaths by suicide ... Read More
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Indiscriminate Affection and Children: The Real Stranger Danger
We’ve all seen it: the child in the supermarket line willing to tell you all about himself despite not knowing you at all, or the little girl who plops herself in a new teacher’s lap ... Read More
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Running from the Reunion? How to Cope with Difficult Family Visits
In today’s modern world, many of us don’t live near our families. In order to see our loved ones, we generally have to plan a visit. Due to finances, scheduling time off work, packing, ... Read More
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ISTDP Shows Promise in Addressing Treatment-Resistant Depression
A recent randomized controlled study of therapy for treatment-resistant depression produced evidence that a brief trial of intensive short-term dynamic psychotherapy (ISTDP) may have large ... Read More
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Office Affairs: When a Workplace Friendship Crosses the Line
Workplace affairs are on the rise. Research indicates that from 1982 to 1990, 38% of unfaithful wives had affairs starting at work. From 1991 to 2000, 50% of unfaithful wives began an affair ... Read More