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Learning to Trust Again After Gaslighting
Gaslighting is in the news these days. In simple terms, to gaslight is to treat another person in a way that makes them doubt their own perceptions. We can see this behavior on a large ... Read More
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Why Can’t I See Myself as Anything but Ordinary?
Some people have difficulty comfortably accepting qualities and capacities about themselves that are notable. They feel anxiety and shame if they even consider they might be special in ... Read More
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Divorced with Children: Dating and Blending Families
I have a memory of walking down the street with my mother, around the age of five, thinking about a conversation I’d had with some other children in the schoolyard a few days earlier. ... Read More
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Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART): Quick Fix for PTSD?
Imagine being able to make significant progress in healing from posttraumatic stress in one therapy session. Several mental health practitioners using accelerated resolution therapy (ART) ... Read More
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Compassion Fatigue: Can You Care Too Much?
Whether out of obligation or out of a caring heart, more than 65 million adults in the United States take care of an elderly, chronically ill, or disabled loved one. Most of these ailing ... Read More
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How to Overcome the Debilitating Panic of Agoraphobia
Agoraphobia, which involves a fear of leaving the house, driving on freeways or other roads, being in lines or in the open, and similar situations, is a condition that provokes anxiety ... Read More
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Attachment as Defense: How Trauma Shapes the Self
The experience of trauma often shapes our beliefs of self, other, and world. In turn, those beliefs shape our relationships, pervade our families, spread to our communities, and stretch ... Read More
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How Positive Affirmations Can Help You Achieve Your Goals
Affirmations are positive statements that are often used to combat negative self-perceptions or enhance focus on personal goals. Affirmations also tend to foster the expectation of success. ... Read More
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How to Keep Gridlock from Stopping Your Relationship Cold
You want a baby soon; your partner does not. You always want to stay out late; your partner just wants to go home and go to bed. You want to spend less and save more; your partner wants ... Read More
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How to Co-Parent with an Ex Who Parents Differently
When a couple with children separate or divorce, finding a way to co-parent successfully can be challenging. Even if the separation is the best course of action for a couple whose marriage ... Read More
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Resilience and Overwhelm: How Full Is Your ‘Container’?
Somatic psychotherapists often use the informal metaphor of a “container” in describing a person’s state of overwhelm or resilience. It’s a simple concept: If Janelle is experiencing ... Read More
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The Biology of Calm: How Downregulation Promotes Well-Being
In my therapy practice, I dedicate considerable time to helping people understand what’s happening deep inside of them, in the layers of the nervous system where the conscious mind blurs ... Read More