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Help! I Have No One to Talk To

Dear GoodTherapy,

Ever since my dad died last year, I have had no one to talk to. And really, I had no one to talk to for the last three years of his life, ravaged as he was by Alzheimer’s.

I don’t have any other family. I have no close friends, no husband or boyfriend, and no children. It’s just me and my constant companions: emptiness, loneliness, and my 8-year-old dog Roxie. When she goes, my life will truly be meaningless. Sometimes I hope she outlives me. If God had told me this would be my life, I would have stayed put.

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I’m not kidding when I say I can go three or four days without saying a word to anyone. I write, but it’s just for me (except this letter). Writing is like talking to myself, so that’s something, I guess. And it keeps me from losing track of language altogether. Sometimes I feel like I’m starting to lose my mind the way Dad did.

So now that you know how pathetic my life is, go ahead and tell me there is “hope” if only I do this, that, and the other thing. I probably won’t believe you, but I wouldn’t be writing if I had given up completely. —In Solitary

Dear Solitary,

Your letter inspires my curiosity, not my advice. I’m not going to tell you to do anything because I believe you already know what to do—you’re just not ready. Perhaps you’re too mad or too sad. Both, maybe? What I will say is caring for your dad for three years took a lot out of you. You’re flattened, your energy seemingly used up.

It’s time for renewal. I think that’s why you wrote this letter. I don’t know what you do to care for yourself. I don’t know what you like to do, what you’d like to learn to do, or what you’d like to do differently, but you probably know the answers. Knowing what to do can be a lot easier than doing it, of course.

I’m not sure what you mean when you write, “If God had told me this would be my life, I would have stayed put.” Stayed put where? In a different house, job, city, state, state of existence? There are hints of hopelessness in your words, but there is always hope. Sometimes it helps when someone removed from your situation points it out. Speaking of hope, I hope you will consider working with a therapist for this reason. No good therapist is going to tell you what to do, but they will walk with you through the hardest parts until you see your own way forward.

Can you use your compassion and commitment for yourself, too? If not, why not?

Had you always lived with your father? Had you always lived the same way? You cared for your dad, Alzheimer’s and all, for three years. You know plenty about commitment and devotion to others. I wonder where and how you learned. Did someone once care for you that way? Can you use your compassion and commitment for yourself, too? If not, why not?

I have a lot of questions. Maybe too many. Do you ever question yourself? You write, so I’m guessing you do.

You are clearly lonely, but you know how to reach people if you want. You’ve put yourself in solitary confinement. I wonder what you’ve done to deserve this. Or what you think you’ve done.

Is it punishment or choice? Maybe you like having time alone, too. After all, you don’t have to take care of anybody except yourself and your dog.

You think your life is “pathetic”? I don’t think so. I think you’ve got plenty going for yourself. You just need to decide to use what you have.

Take care,

Lynn Somerstein, PhD, NCPsyA, C-IAYT

Lynn Somerstein

Lynn Somerstein, PhD, NCPsyA, C-IAYT is a Manhattan-based, licensed psychotherapist with more than 30 years in private practice. She is also a yoga teacher and student of Ayuveda—the Indian science of wellness. Her main interest is in helping people find healthy ways of living, loving, and working in the particular combination that works best for them, connecting to their deepest energic source so their full range of abilities can be expressed. Lynn's specialty is understanding and alleviating anxiety and depression.

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VHC
September 26th, 2018 at 11:17 AM
“solitary confinement” is the perfect way to put it.

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gloria c.
September 30th, 2018 at 4:26 PM
so im in love with my friends ex and we have classes together and the other day me and him was cuddling and he kissed my head what should i do should i tell her or what please help

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S
April 11th, 2019 at 8:39 AM
So what if you do reach out and everyone ignores you? That is not a choice. I will email people reach out and get totally ignored. No one wants to hear anyone’s complaints or issues. Shoot I think I may not email myself back. So the only other option is to pay someone to? yea then they really don’t care, they just want the $. I’ve done that quite a few times and even when I don’t show up they never check on me. Awesome huh?

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Chuck
April 26th, 2019 at 8:07 AM
I totally agree. No one really wants to take the time anymore to get to know someone. They are to distracted with the internet, cell phone, and social media. They don’t have the skills (including Counselors) to truly listen and discern where others are coming from. Then, you have the DSM 5 labeling people with all kinds of issues. There is nothing mentally wrong with these people. There just fed up. They are dealing with the cultural stigma of not fitting in. They end up experiencing much rejection, dejection, shame and being humiliated.

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Amaechi
June 5th, 2019 at 8:28 AM
Not only that, ppl don’t phone. Hearing a voice is so much more personal and stimulating than a text from someone. Sadly, too many folks refuse to make calls or be called, either to save money (despite free ways to do it over social media) or avoid that intimacy.
S
July 19th, 2019 at 3:28 PM
Wow…..with the previous 5 comments/replies, I’m ASTOUNDED that I
am NOT the only one who has recognized for quite some time that
human “contact” verbally(in person or phone) has had such a “visably
noticeable” affect on GENUINE human “interaction” among mainly
the folks using the cell phones, smart phones!! Example…..boy/girl
dating in restaurant…..for the 45min-1 hour they are there, at LEAST
80% of ALL that time is devoted to activities on smart phones. These
type people have become (walking “dead”) ROBOTS with compromised
communication skills going forward……SO SAD!!!!! S

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Chris
July 24th, 2019 at 10:36 AM
I truly have no one. I know that if i were gone tomorrow it would not matter to a soul. my parents are gone, my grandmother is gone, children have no use for me (they only care when they need money) and bf threatens to move out at every turn. it is very hard to step back from the edge of the thought process that i have no meaning, no impact, no point to being here. I know i would not be missed.

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The GoodTherapy Team
July 24th, 2019 at 12:02 PM
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Carlie
August 15th, 2019 at 1:36 PM
Hi, Chris. I’m with you. I recently had someone text me, “We’re not excluding you. We just don’t think about you.” Another one emailed me, “You’re not one of the cool kids to us but you are a cool kid to someone else.” AMAZING! I recommend doing volunteer work of some sort. There are nursing homes, hospices, all kinds of places where lonely, hurting people would LOVE to make eye contact with YOU. I also recommend going to an open AA meeting. No, in open meetings you don’t have to have a problem with alcohol or any substance, but it’s a place you can go to hear people talk about their thoughts and feelings — being HUMAN. You must find a way to reach out and touch someone, to quote an old advo phrase.
Prayed for you.

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Jennifer
July 30th, 2019 at 10:05 AM
My mother had the same problem and she was always terribly hurt when plans would be canceled or she would get blown off entirely which was honestly the story of her life. She hated being called ‘pretty’ feeling she only attracted men and nothing meaningful. She spent a lot of time at CODA meetings which was both good and bad. Her name was Gail and perhaps when you are really feeling down you can ask for her spirit in guidance. I tell my son that if our only job everyday is to survive that is OK also. God has a plan. Good luck :)

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Renee
September 10th, 2019 at 9:11 PM
I have no one to talk to hang out with nothing, my father passed away, my mother has Alzheimer’s my brother lives 1,500 miles away and never answer his phone my husband past away so it’s just me and 2 dogs renting a room with house privileges the people I’m renting from doesn’t really talk to me unless it’s to complain about something or someone or ask for money. Life is spiraling out of control counselors are just out for $ they don’t act like they care or what to help.

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vanesaa r
October 4th, 2019 at 6:06 AM
I am going to be going through a divorce and my world is turning upside down. I need to be there mentally for my 9 year old daughter who counts on me but I feel I have no one to vent to about what I am going through.

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Angela
November 23rd, 2019 at 1:45 PM
I have a boyfriend who cares but I lost interest because I fell in love with this one guy who happens to be my former neighbor we have never spoke to each other yet I still liked him one day he sat by his door step as I stared at him I noticed something was strange I then found out him and his whole family were moving we left and when we came back he was gone I suddenly felt tears coming out and then I said to myself that he was gone even before I got to know him my sister does care my best friend sorta cares but she speaks bad behind my back and I have no one to cry on what should I do plz I know this isn’t that serious but I am desperate for anything

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Michael
February 20th, 2020 at 3:06 PM
I am not at the same point of having nobody to talk to that the original poster and some of the commentators are. But I can see myself getting to that point someday if I am not careful. And there was a period some years back when I felt that I was somewhat close that point
I have spent so much of my life working long hours and doing a lengthy commute I never had much time or energy to spend building up any sort of network or social circle other than online.
The solution to the problem is actually rather simple: expand your social circle and find people who share your interests and values and can add meaning to life.
But, of course, implementing that solution is not always simple and does require an investment of time and effort.
I think Carlie in the comments is on to something when she suggested doing volunteer work.
I would add to that by suggesting to do ANYTHING that is positive and worthwhile that will put you in regular contact with other people. If you want more people in your life, you need to put yourself in circulation where you can find such people and where they can find you.
But I have found that there is one EXTREMELY important rule when doing so: any event or activity you attend needs to be something that you will gain value and enjoyment from REGARDLESs as to whether you make new friends.
If you go for no other purpose than finding friends and you don’t then you will have considered it a waste of time and will eventually become discouraged.
But, if there was some other value that made attending worthwhile – then it wasn’t a waste of your time.
It is important to go into such things with a certain realism. One doesn’t just meet someone and become close friends the same day. Relationships take time to evolve.
Be prepared for the possiblity that more of the events you attend will likley NOT result in potential freinds than those that will.
It is like any other type of treasure hunt – you have to sift through a certain amount of stuff you have no interest in before you find what you are looking for. But if you aren’t out there sifting through the pebbles and the rocks you will never find the nugget of gold that is waiting for you.
Also, one more thing that is also VERY important once you do start meeting people: friendship is based on shared interests and values.
Everybody has problems in their lives. And everybody goes through rough periods in their lives. Sometimes helping a friend during a difficult time can draw the friendship closer. But one has to be VERY careful about this. If a person’s problems get to the point that they overwhelm the shared interests and values that the friendship is based on – that can end a friendship very quickly. There is a term for it: empathy fatigue.
A friend should NEVER be used as a substitute for a therapist. That is a quick way of ending a friendship. Whether you are the one in need of help or if it is your friend – don’t cross that line.
Again, everybody has problems in their lives and I don’t know of anybody who is wanting to take on more problems. Be sensitive of that.
If you are needing someone to talk to about life challenges, find a support group, find a therapist, find some sort of online forum or online virtual support group that meets through video conference.
Also – don’t look for friends though a perfectionist mindset.
Expectations of finding a friend who is exactly like a friend you have lost is not realistic – every person is unique.
Expectations of finding a friend who shares your taste in books AND movies AND has the exact same hobbies that you do AND the same exact political views – that will set you up for disappointment.
A rich social circle will contain many types of friends, some you are closer with than others. Some friends you might only spend time with a few times per year – others perhaps a few times a week or more.
Maybe the basis for some friendships will be a shared hobby. If so, avoid complicating such friendships by discussions of subjects such as religion and politics.
If you like to talk about religion and politics, then find seek out people where those subjects can be the common bond.
Eventually, you might find a certain special friend who shares your values in many areas of life. That is wonderful. But, until then, don’t let that stop you from enjoying the company of people who share only some but not all of your values.
As to where to find friends locally – the Internet can actually be very helpful in this area.
Check online and see if there are any events of interest in your area.
And, of course, any sort of organization or club that is devoted to causes, viewpoints or activities that are of value to you are a great place to meet people.
Anyhow, much of the above is advice I have recently given to myself and am seeking ways to implement. If I don’t want to end up being lonely with nobody to talk with – then I need to make the time and effort to get out and meet with people.
The world is full of wonderful people – some of whom share my interests and values and would enjoy knowing me just as much as I would enjoy knowing them. But if I don’t make the effort to put myself in circulation where I can find them and they can find me – then both of our lives will be less rich than they could have been and I likely will end up being lonely.

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Eileen
May 14th, 2020 at 3:02 PM
Michael,
Yours is such an uplifting post and for that reason I cannot imagine you being lonely for long as it is positivity, kindness, and a warm personality that helps us connect. It is not easy these days though and I do believe that technology has hindered us as far as social skills go. Some years ago I parted company with my mobile phone and noticed all the more, how people walked with their heads down totally engrossed with the screen in front of them. In my twenties, I loved going on a train journey, often to work in London, not knowing who I might talk to along the way. Even if it was just the weather, I often felt lifted by talking to someone and if I saw an elderly person who I thought might be interested in a conversation, I would sit beside them. Today, I think that type of action would be considered odd! A few years ago, I volunteered for a local stroke club and met some wonderful people through that but still find that life is lonely at times and do not quite know how it ended up that way as I’ve been told I’m a friendly human being! One of the stroke volunteers is still in touch and recently through the lock down here in England, I wrote to her and thanked her for her kindness and thoughtfulness towards me.
I hope you manage to branch out and share your positive attitude with those around you Michael. Good luck to you.
Eileen.

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Ade
May 3rd, 2020 at 4:33 PM
Sometimes I feel lonely but I blame myself because I never let anybody close to me. I know now I should have. I could blame it on marriage and children. But no that wouldn’t be true. Live and learn. You need to be there for friends so maybe they will be there for you.

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Chuck
May 4th, 2020 at 9:58 AM
It’s hard to be there for others. When you were traumatized as a child. No therapy in the world is going to change those circumstances.

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Jane
September 6th, 2020 at 8:29 AM
I don’t really know what’s even wrong with me,I just don’t know how to make friends.I find it hard letting people in because let’s face it,no one wants to go through the stress of really understanding how you feel.I lost my mum 3yrs ago and it seems it’s just been me alone.Imagine having lots go through your mind there’s no one to share with.I’m bothered about my life,school and all.
I don’t mind,I just want one genuine friend to laugh heartily with and I’m good.
You could easily say I should try getting busy but I don’t have much freedom as I am still under my father and we are just surviving financially.I enjoy cooking and baking but I can’t afford doing them all the time.
I’m not always like this though but I think this particular breakdown is just a build up of all I have been feeling lately.

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Kenneth
October 10th, 2020 at 11:36 AM
I don’t think I am alone, I know it. No family, no friends, and can’t afford therapy/counciling. Heck, I can’t even afford church. Barely staying alive with a roof over my head. Everyone that I try to talk to just says to get involved in more activities, without ever considering the costs involved. Example; a lady told me to start a blog as that is free. Wrong, the computer, the software, the internet all cost something. But the worst part is the prevailing attitude of society that people like me don’t need help. Single, middle aged, no kids, white, male. Society is geared towards families and married couples. People like me are forgotten about, or ostracized. Thanks and may God Bless You, in Jesus name, Amen

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libby
January 11th, 2021 at 4:14 PM
im 15 and I’m pretty sure I have an eating disorder and I have no one to talk to because to be quite honest I’m embarrassed about it. one day I will just go to the cubard to grab a snack and the next thing u know I have eat everything in there and then ill basically starve myself for a week and over exercise. not only that but I have to Get all my school work done and it just gets too much for me and ill be lying in bed and I get these sudden panics that make me stress and Its like I can feel the panic in my body and its like a sharp pain. I can never sleep and I can’t even concentrate on the tv most of the time.

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chaching
March 31st, 2021 at 1:42 AM
I am so sorry to hear about your problem. Have you tried figuring out what is causing your diet disorder? What do you think? Do you want to be thinner? If yes, then why? Look I am 24, and I have battled ‘being fat’ all my life, and it is only recently that I have started seeing that all those things are so meaningless. None of the people who were thinner than me when I was 15 are happier than me now. I don’t mean that I am absolutely happy, just that they aren’t happier either. My friend who is 22 is still battling intense inferiority complex because of her weight, and everyday I see her getting a little better and nothing makes me happier. Look I know that, none of this feels right at this moment, but I am writing this only so you’d understand that I was where you are not very long back. And honestly, things aren’t good still, but they are a lil bit better, and honestly, I have made it so myself. I know this may not help you, but my photo since the past many years have been ‘fake it till you make it’. Take little steps at a time, have a little breakfast. May be consult a dietician and even if it threatens to kill you for the time being, stick to the chart that they prepare for you. It’s okay alright? You are much more than just your weight, and you are much stronger than these momentary lapses, I promise you that.

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Aaron
April 5th, 2021 at 8:00 AM
I have no one to talk to about something in specific of singular greatest importance to me.

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renee
May 12th, 2021 at 8:10 PM
I’m lonely
My mother past away
I don’t use substance or drinks
I suffer depression from past abused

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Aaron
May 13th, 2021 at 10:11 AM
Well, that sucks! And we can all commiserate. What then do you need from any reader of your post? How can I help?

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Dope jonz
June 17th, 2021 at 3:22 PM
I’m not saying that I don’t like where I come from but sometimes I admire you people. The fact that your world had the chance to civilization earlier than this side makes you get all the kind of help for any problem you’re facing. In my region, no one really cares, therapists are still a dream, you really suffer until you die. I have struggled with my sorrow since I was a kid till now, and when I see people trying their best to help strangers they hardly know makes me admire your world. I know and hope we will get to where you are but I also know I will be dead by that time, it also aches my heart to know I will be never get anyone to ever talk to. Sounds silly but I wish people had the power to make choices of where they wanted to be born.😑

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cei
June 18th, 2021 at 9:48 AM
Umm.. Where do you come from? I myself am from a third world country so yeah, mental health concerns are only starting to get the importance they deserve here. And hey this is the internet, kind strangers aren’t all that rare here.. at least there are a few people who will listen

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Dope jonz
June 20th, 2021 at 7:48 PM
I’m from Kenya, is it possible to get someone to talk to? I just want to let it out for once, I realized I badly need to! I want to feel the relief I have been reading on the internet even if it won’t last for so long!

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Idk
September 16th, 2021 at 5:40 PM
I really need someone to talk to in my house eveyone says to me that I should just shut up and suck it up but I can’t no more. Then when I try to talk to them or am just feeling sad they say that am acting like a five year old.

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martez
November 6th, 2021 at 8:49 AM
honestly life sucks , like more often than not life continues to just go down hill . everyday is the same . literally waking up becomes so draining , n its never ending . im just tried of trying so hard for everyone else but me . i got introuble a couple times in school this past week or too . and its like my family is just falling apart . yes that seems dramatic , but bro i feel like i dont have my mom anymore , its literally like everyone becomes so angry at me to where theyd rather not have me around . i feel alone in a house w 5 people . ik ive made things worse but i still wanna feel loved in my own home bro .

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Fulya
December 17th, 2021 at 1:25 AM
When Allah creates humans, He creates them with a power within them that can fight against everything. Our only mistake is not being aware of this power within us. After that, we feel inadequate in many ways. I grew up without a father. I had a mother and two brothers. The brothers turned out to be unfaithful, we parted ways. Even if it’s your brother and he’s hurting you, it’s best to remove him from your life. I graduated from 4 different university departments in my own country. I have more than 15 training certificates that not many people have. I work and earn my money. I wanted to publish a book. I also published my poetry book. I love to write so I am a digital content writer. I’m interested in psychology, maybe I’ll do my master’s in psychology. I haven’t decided yet. If nothing goes wrong in March, I will be at the CNR fair, which will be my signature day in Istanbul. I read the reviews and recommend to friends. You are not weak and alone. You can create your own possibilities. Nobody’s life is easy. Even the richest, happiest-looking people have more problems than you do. A new year is coming, a new year means new hopes. Now realize your own strength. today is your day :)

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Fulya
December 17th, 2021 at 1:29 AM
hello Kenneth. There are places where you can start a free blog on blogging. You can open a blog site for yourself using Blogger or WordPress programs. These are free and very easy to use sites. I also have a blog page and it was created with the wordpress program. You can open your blog page and get the naming rights of the site after a while and start making money with advertisements.

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dad
November 10th, 2022 at 1:07 AM
idk go somewhere random and just say hi to someone

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leslie
May 18th, 2023 at 3:46 PM
i am a parapaligic and i do everything for myself even when i feel so badly and thats pretty much everyday.i can relate to the being alone.i can also relate to having to pay someome before they wil even come see me..and then they are all in a rush like they are gonna melt or something,i bought a building thats 12×40 then trying to add on to it and finding people that are reliable never happened..people that i thought i knew have used me they ignore my calkls and text and dont come around..i dont cry i just keep trying and its so freaking hard..ive tried looking for recources for parapaligics and there are none..my question is this…all the money thats going to research,yet no clinical trials and absolutely no help at all fgor parapaligics..where is all tghat money going cause it doesnt go to us at all..ive had to buy everything for myself even with money i got nowhere,now i dont have the money to pay anyone for anything cause i was too busy still trying to look out for everyone else..why save us if they are gonna just leave us here to die slowly and painfully..ive never done anything to deserve this and we should have someone tell us from the start how life was gonna be and i would have gladly told them to just let me die…this is by far the absolute worse life anyone could ever be forced to live and im discusted that theres no freaking help out there for us..our government is worried about everything but us..still wanna know where all the money goes for parapaligics..

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PC
October 14th, 2023 at 7:27 PM
I feel so alone I hurt inside. I have a family. But, I am not wanted by them. I am so tired of being isolated. Regular people don’t understand how I feel. They make nasty comments or tell me to just shake it off. I pray for death often. No one will notice I am gone. I refuse to give up. It’s just hard when I don’t know where to turn for help or who to talk to. I have learned not to trust people. The crisis hotlines don’t help. I was suicidal once and was telling the person how I felt and what I was going through, well they told me to hold on. I was on hold for about five minutes. I felt even smaller and less important. So, I no longer call the crisis hotline. The crisis hotline is not helpful at all.

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PC
October 14th, 2023 at 8:30 PM
If you are poor and going through a hard mental crisis you must have money to see someone. Why is mental Health not free? Why do some of the doctors only see new patients? Why is no one available 24 hours?? I think the mental health system is flawed and completely messed up. The mental health professionals don’t really understand mental illness. You can’t go to school to learn how a person is feeling on the inside. They sometimes think they understand you and they don’t. They are only there to earn a paycheck. If I miss an appointment or ten or twelve no one from the office calls to check up on me. Sometimes I go through an episode of severe depression to the point I try to kill myself. When I finally tell the therapist or doctor the only thing they can say is, are you taking your medicine. Yes, I answer. But, depression can sometimes over power the medication. Especially if you suffer alone and in silence. They, the doctors, therapist, and normal people don’t understand mental illness or really care. I think people kill themselves because they loose hope. They loose friends and family because they don’t understand mental illness and some don’t care to learn. Holding down a job is very scary, you worry your mental illness secret will come out without your permission at the most inconvenient time. Which means you sometimes are unemployed. Why do insurance companies only pay for forty five minutes of therapy but you are scheduled for an hour. I think the insurance companies should pay for each funeral of a person who reached out for help and didn’t get it. But, the more victims the mental health doctors and therapist can push drugs that don’t help or cause horrible side effects on the more money they all make. I feel like mental health patients are just a way for them to make a lot of money. A lot of people need and seek out mental health care. there’s just no where to go for good quality mental health care. I went to an emergency mental health facility once and they had men and women in the same room laying in beds and on mattresses on the floor. I felt so unsafe and scared. I lied and said I was okay just to get out of there. I feel and hit my head. The other patients helped me not the staff. I am starting to understand why so many homeless people don’t want the help. They {staff} treat you as if you have a disease they too can catch or they really don’t want to be at this particular job. I had a nurse get very nasty with me for asking a question. If I could get rid of my mental illness I’d give it right to God. He can heal me. Not just waste my forty five minutes and give me some drugs and a return appointment. I hate the mental health medical world, it’s very sterile and cold.

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Roxx
November 26th, 2023 at 9:03 AM
You are right. I’m not a health care professional, therapist, or doctor. I’m someone who starting a business to help support people with ADHD, I must admit after reading this article it’s apparent people in general might need emotional support. At first I was going to say go down to your community health center to receive treatment for depression or any other mental health problem. Then I finished reading your post, and you said some things that I found in my experience to be true. I was mis-diagnosed three times, put on every cocktail you think of for three years. It wasn’t until my son was diagnosed I learn the parent mostly likely passed it down to the child. I I never even considered ADHD, it wasn’t ever brought up by anyone I came into contact with. Even after my diagnosis I had another doctor in a different state try to convince me it wasn’t ADHD but something I had already been treated for unsuccessfully. Even after disclosing this information, the doctor still wouldn’t consider it was ADHD. The doctor was still willing to give me a prescription I already knew didn’t work for the sake of his ego. You are absolutely right about the healthcare system. I can’t deny it because I keep reliving the same bad experience. You are also right about people don’t consider money to be a major factor in what people are recommending. You can get free internet with the Affordable Connectivity Program. You can also receive a free phone and laptop just google it. The internet is one resource that shouldn’t cost you money to have access to. If you ever need to talk hit me up on my name.

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Jana
November 5th, 2023 at 8:40 PM
Try being a handicapped shut in, crying for help only to have them fall on deaf ears. At what point does anyone give a damn…if anyone doesn’t give a damn if I live or die, why then should I ? I’d wait for a response but that razor blase is too tempting…what good does calling a crisis hot line going to do me. Sometimes I care is easier said than done!

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M
November 16th, 2023 at 10:06 PM
Echoing what someone else said a few posts back – what if you reach out and no one ever responds? Nobody ever calls back or replies to messages anymore and, after a while, the person reaching out gets fed up with trying and gives up. Not even a simple, “Hey, want to go grab a coffee?” ever gets any results. Instead of putting the burden on the grieving, lonely person, why not ask everyone else out there why they’re always too busy and too self-absorbed to respond or care?

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Roxx
November 26th, 2023 at 7:44 AM
Here is the response this person should have receive.
I want to express my sincere empathy for the difficult circumstances you’ve been facing, especially with the loss of your father and the challenges that Alzheimer’s brought into your lives during the last few years. It’s evident that you’re going through an incredibly tough time, and it takes courage to share these feelings.

The emotional burden of loneliness and the sense of isolation can be profoundly challenging. It’s positive that you’ve found solace in writing, as it can indeed serve as a therapeutic outlet. However, I also acknowledge that it might not fully replace the need for human connection.

Considering your situation, it might be beneficial to explore avenues that allow for meaningful connections. While I won’t claim to have a one-size-fits-all solution, reaching out to support groups or communities, either online or in person, could provide a space for shared experiences and understanding. Additionally, considering the strong bond you have with your dog, Roxie, exploring activities or groups related to pet lovers might offer a chance to connect with others.

It’s crucial to recognize that the journey toward healing is unique for everyone, and seeking professional help, like a counselor or therapist, could be a valuable step. The blog and coaching service you’re launching might also provide insights and support tailored to your emotional needs.

Remember, it’s okay to seek help, and there is strength in reaching out. If you ever feel overwhelmed, consider discussing your feelings with a mental health professional who can provide guidance and support. You’re not alone, and there are people and resources available to help you navigate these challenging times.

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Peter
May 3rd, 2024 at 2:42 AM
I feel alone at times. Maybe I shouldn’t. I suffer with several mental health conditions, but was able to get well enough for some 7 to 8
years and become a CRSS in the state of Illinois and worked at a Psych/Behavior health hospital and assist in opening up 2 walk-in suicide clinics. I was great, but also couldn’t ask for help myself. I was successful in writing or compiling some very helpful “recovery workbooks” but couldn’t ask for help myself. I crashed physically and mentally very terribly. I felt after that, things were good, but recently my mania as snuck back in.
I feel alone at times, but I belief I can benefit others as well as benefitting them.

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Zevon
July 29th, 2024 at 6:21 PM
I hear ya. I cant talk to my wife as she gets defensive. Cant talk with daughter about my wife. All my friends are dying off due to age. got no one to go to for advice.

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