The GoodTherapy Blog

This is not a post about people speaking two different languages such as English and Spanish.  This is a story about couples that talk to each other but it feels as if they just don’t ... Read More

On a fairly regular basis I am asked by a divorced parent how old their child must be before they can choose which parent they want to live with. Many parents tell me their child will be ... Read More

We are taught from the earliest of ages that good communication is imperative. In both subtle, and direct ways, we are taught to be competitive when we communicate. Simultaneously, we ... Read More

I was very young when I knew I wanted to be a therapist. I became particularly interested in depression and how people deal with traumatic events. Never in a million years did I think I ... Read More

So often, people talk about the struggles they experience, and how they’ve grown from the pain in their lives. It’s true, but the sentiment is often that it takes pain to grow. What’s ... Read More

Why do people we care for sometimes engage in cruel behavior? What can we do about it? Alfred Adler believed the ultimate goal for all human beings is to belong and feel connected to others. ... Read More

You look terrific today. I love what you’re wearing. You have such a nice smile. I like the sound of your voice. Many people would rather eat a broccoli-flavored Popsicle than be on ... Read More

Play is serious business! –Caitlin ‘Cake’ Gateaux I was asked by the US Play Coalition research committee to collect personal statements about ideas and beliefs that ... Read More

Simply put, when it comes to traumatic experiences, there is no hierarchy of pain. Many survivors believe—or want to believe—that trauma is scalable and therefore more or less extreme ... Read More

Many people curb their nervousness with a nice glass of wine or other alcohol beverage. Whether you’re gathering the courage to socialize with people you barely know, fly on an airplane, ... Read More

Conventional wisdom says that having conflict in a partnership is “bad.” Most couples perceive conflict or its lack as a measure of a relationship’s strength or weakness. The truth ... Read More

Many of the partners or loved ones (POLOs) of those struggling with addiction often seem reluctant to get help for themselves. I’m not sure why that is, but I’m hoping this article ... Read More