The GoodTherapy Blog

I’ve been a jerk many times in my life. But one time that stands out for me happened when I was 13. I had been invited to the bat mitzvah of a girl I barely knew. A bat mitzvah is a big ... Read More

“Time is the currency of relationships. There’s no way to invest into a relationship without investing your time.” —Dave Willis Time is a mystery. When we’re young, we have all ... Read More

The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in. —Rumi Growing up, we are formally taught for at least 13 years how to read, write, and perform ... Read More

“Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” This recognizable quote from the movie Ferris Bueller’s Day Off can be helpful to ... Read More

When your “get up and go” has “got up and left,” when there’s no more “pep” left in your step, sometimes the best thing you can do is just stop trying for a while. Moving ... Read More

What I am going to describe is what can happen when children grow up and begin to realize that they are not living their lives according to their own wishes and desires. They start to recognize ... Read More

“They say they understand, but how can someone who wasn’t adopted know what it feels like?” Sixteen-year-old Lisa’s voice trails off as she explains the many frustrating conversations ... Read More

When it comes to relationships, many clichés exist for a good reason: a lot of them are true. Making and keeping long-term connections is, of course, some of the oldest and hardest work ... Read More

Last week, our cat died. Frodo was a stray tomcat we took in 11 years ago. We weren’t sure about his age, though we’re guessing he lived to be about 14 years old. He didn’t show ... Read More

Breakups are often a painful ordeal, but the pain is all the more excruciating when you don’t see it coming. You thought things were going great, and then seemingly out of nowhere ... Read More

I received a call from a woman the other day in my office. She wanted to start couples therapy with her husband of 10 years. As I inquired about what was going on, I quickly learned that ... Read More

If her heart is broken, maybe it’s because her father broke it first. Her inability to accept herself is probably because he told her that she would never be good enough for anyone or ... Read More