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What Is the Right Thing to Do When an Old Lover Connects with You Online? January 19, 2012 . 242 Comments
What would you do? An important romantic figure from your past finds you on an internet social media site. Perhaps this was your first love. This renewed connection brings to mind the passion ... Read More
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Secret Affairs Cause More Hostility in Relationships Than Coming Clean January 5, 2012 . 16 Comments
Extradyadic involvement (EDI), also known as infidelity, occurs in many relationships. At times, the infidelity is known to both partners, and at other times, only the participating partner ... Read More
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Avoiding Sex Addiction after a Breakup December 29, 2011 . 5 Comments
In many ways, it would appear that breaking up is similar to falling in love. I know what you are thinking, and you are right – it’s not quite the same thing. However, in terms ... Read More
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Attachment Style May Predict Infidelity December 19, 2011 . 3 Comments
Individuals who have avoidant attachment personalities struggle with intimacy and closeness. In romantic relationships, this type of personality can cause a partner to distance themselves ... Read More
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Help! My Date Nights End with Erectile Dysfunction! December 5, 2011 . 13 Comments
In my neck of the woods the majority of therapists see mainly women (probably about 80% of their clients). Not so for me – more than half my clients are male, and when I work with ... Read More
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Sex Addiction is a Relational Disorder November 21, 2011 . 21 Comments
I’m struck by the fact that people with addiction issues, when confronted with the destructive effects of their behaviors, often find it harder to stop. This is especially true, in my ... Read More
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Therapy Is Not a Place for Romance November 4, 2011 . 27 Comments
If Hollywood is an indicator of our most common fantasies, modern Americans want to sleep with their therapists. I am horrified that so many television shows and movies depict romantic ... Read More
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Living With Frustration in a Relationship November 3, 2011 . 7 Comments
Many couples I work with come in with a large amount of stress and difficulty. The causes vary, but the behaviors people use to respond to the upset are often predictable. People who start ... Read More
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How to Reconcile Religious and Spiritual Differences With Your Partner October 31, 2011 . 12 Comments
Every so often I will be treating a couple, one of whom says that the other doesn’t care about religion or spiritual matters. The complainant may cite a lack of support for his or her ... Read More
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Caring for Each Other After a Miscarriage October 24, 2011 . 15 Comments
The loss of a child before it is born naturally stirs intense and conflicting emotions. Women might feel an intense physical bonding and grief for a being with whom they have already grown ... Read More
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Is It Love, Or Is It Object Personification Synesthesia? October 21, 2011 . 4 Comments
Perhaps youʼve come across one of the many articles or videos with titles like, “In Love with the Eiffel Tower”, or a recent National Geographic Taboo program called “Forbidden Love?” ... Read More
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When Acceptance Becomes Enabling October 19, 2011 . 7 Comments
In couples and sex therapy, one of the common themes that come up is that of acceptance. I strongly encourage people to accept their partner, and accept each other. I believe that acceptance ... Read More