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3 Things Your Therapist Wants You to Do Before Couples Therapy Begins April 19, 2018 . 4 Comments
From my many years as a couples therapist, I have learned one of the most difficult phases of the work is when a couple has committed to repairing your marriage, but before the repair has ... Read More
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What’s Wrong with Us? 4 Ways to Get Your Relationship Back on Track April 17, 2018 . 2 Comments
So you’ve been in this relationship for a while. And nothing is inherently wrong with it. But you occasionally look at your partner and wonder if it could be more. Maybe you compare your ... Read More
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How to Overcome Emotional Repression in Your Relationship April 17, 2018 . 2 Comments
What feelings were denied you as a child? Did your parents or caregivers say: “I don’t ever want to hear those words again” in response to your anger? “I’ll give you something ... Read More
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7 Steps to Overcome the Pain of Rejection When a Partner Leaves April 15, 2018 . 25 Comments
Our first therapy session began … The day I found her text on my husband’s phone is a day I will never forget. My whole life changed in an instant. I was stunned and in disbelief. I ... Read More
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Relational Hurt or Attachment Injury? How to Tell the Difference April 5, 2018 . 4 Comments
If you have ever been in a relationship, you have experienced hurt. It is inevitable. Even when two people have a connected, secure, and healthy relationship, they will experience hurt ... Read More
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How Do I Know If I Am Getting Married to the Right Person? March 29, 2018 . 4 Comments
How do you know if someone is the right person for you? With so many marriages ending up in divorce, this question is a common one. Finding the answer often takes thoughtful consideration. Almost ... Read More
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When Is Love Healthy? Attachment, Vulnerability, and Respect March 13, 2018 . 1 Comment
Love is a topic that has never lost human relevance or interest. Poetry, songs, essays, novels, movies, and multitudes of self-help books focus on this marvelous, mysterious topic. Yet, ... Read More
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Why Is It So Hard for Me to Say No? March 12, 2018 . 2 Comments
Dear GoodTherapy.org, I feel so strung out lately. I definitely consider myself a people-pleaser. I tend to go out of my way to make sure friends, family, and coworkers are happy, even ... Read More
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10 Red Flags to Watch Out for in Your Couples Counselor March 7, 2018 . 3 Comments
Starting couples therapy can be scary. Since 1995, when I was licensed as a marriage and family therapist, I’ve heard complaints from couples who’d been ready to make their relationships ... Read More
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Help! I Am Having an Affair and Don’t Want to Stop February 12, 2018 . 6 Comments
Dear GoodTherapy.org, I have been having a torrid affair with a coworker for seven months. It has been undoubtedly the most exhilarating, liberating, but also emotionally wrenching time ... Read More
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‘You Complete Me’: Fantasy Versus Reality in Love Relationships February 8, 2018 . 2 Comments
Romantics, myself included, melted when Tom Cruise uttered “You complete me” in the 1996 hit movie Jerry Maguire. Soon the sentiment became a litmus test of commitment and dedication ... Read More
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7 Steps to Rebuilding Trust in Your Relationship February 8, 2018 . 35 Comments
Rebuilding trust in your relationship can be difficult after it has been broken or compromised. Depending on the nature of the offense, convincing your partner that you can be trusted again ... Read More