Self-Criticism

As a therapist, I hear the word “should” often. Usually it appears just before a spike in anxiety, a precipitous drop in self-esteem, or a sudden crying jag: “I should be over this ... Read More

When I work with people who have difficulty expressing what they want and need, especially to their significant others, it is apparent feelings about hurting the other can create a fierce ... Read More

Self-compassion is one of those terms that has gained popularity of late but remains misunderstood by many. Self-compassion comes down to treating yourself as you would treat someone else ... Read More

When I was a child, I heard a phrase that stuck in my memory: “You’re so impressionable.” I mulled over this phrase, trying to understand its meaning. One thing that was clear was ... Read More

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t—you’re right.” —Henry Ford When Henry Ford first conceived of the V8 motor, his engineers told him it was simply ... Read More

Knowledge is a powerful resource for navigating life. We have endless internal dialogues that assist with interpretation of information and decision-making. Knowing why we think the way ... Read More

When your “get up and go” has “got up and left,” when there’s no more “pep” left in your step, sometimes the best thing you can do is just stop trying for a while. Moving ... Read More

Andrea woke up feeling great and full of energy. She grabbed a bagel and a coffee on her way to the bus station and ate it on the bus to work. She arrived on time and proceeded to the conference ... Read More

“You yourself, as much as anybody else in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” —Buddha As I write this, I can feel anxiety in my entire body; my legs are restless, ... Read More

Have you ever called yourself “stupid” just because you made a mistake? When you look in the mirror, do you curse your reflection for not being attractive enough? Do you make silent, ... Read More

Confidence is something we all struggle with from time to time. We want to feel sure of ourselves, but those little whispers of self-doubt show up whenever we want to put ourselves out ... Read More

For people who define themselves as socially awkward, the perceived risk of being seen in endlessly negative ways—inadequate, ugly, boring, stupid, anxious, depressed, empty, arrogant, ... Read More