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‘Just Like Me’: When Parents See Children As Reflections of Themselves November 8, 2012 . 7 Comments
When parents view their child’s “problematic” behavior, attitudes, or troubles as a reflection of them, it can be a terrible blow to the ego. For parents with positive self-feelings, ... Read More
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How to Get Children to Open Up About Sexual Abuse October 25, 2012 . 18 Comments
One of the reasons many children do not tell anyone about being sexually abused is because they fear that their loved ones will not believe them. Often, their abuser is a friend or family ... Read More
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The Therapeutic Relationship: a Blueprint October 22, 2012 . 6 Comments
As therapists, we take journeys with our clients. We embark on long trips to uncover and discover the past and imagine possible futures. In the case of people who have been victims of ... Read More
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When Children Reject, Disrespect, and Disappoint October 12, 2012 . 11 Comments
A client recently described how thrilling it was to take her daughter to see the Broadway musical Annie. She recalled that her mother took her to see it when she was a child, and it ... Read More
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Cheating and Concealing: An Evolutionary Perspective of Betrayal
October 12, 2012 .
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Many mental health professionals consider the three “A’s”—addiction, affairs, and abuse—sufficient reason to leave a partner. This blog addresses lower-level offenses related ... Read More
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Shy, Cousin of Shame June 18, 2012 . 5 Comments
“Shy is the most terrible feeling that you can get.” “Shyness is a habit that began when someone was afraid to talk and didn’t know what to do. Sometimes shyness ... Read More
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Are Women Really More Emotional Than Men? April 30, 2012 . 13 Comments
Women have been stereotypically defined as being more emotional than men. In popular culture, women are depicted as being more emotionally volatile, often erupting into fits of sadness, ... Read More
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The Importance of Keeping Sex in the Conversation April 12, 2012 . 8 Comments
Whether or not we believe we should talk about sex with our therapist in treatment may have something to do with what we believe therapy is for or what the expected outcome is. Are you ... Read More
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Part II: Source Energy Optimizes Life – Soul Energy Exchange (S.E.X.) February 15, 2012 . 4 Comments
After 5 years of sobriety, in 1985, I began to notice a pattern in my sexual relationships: Even if I really liked someone, I couldn’t go more than 3 months before my attraction to them ... Read More
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Self-Esteem Influences How We Perceive Our Failures November 15, 2011 . 11 Comments
Failure is a part of life. How an individual perceives their failure gives an indication of their overall sense of well-being and adjustment. Reflecting on past failures through imagery ... Read More
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Should You Attend a Friend’s Wedding Even If Your Heart Says “No”? July 12, 2011 . 19 Comments
Yesterday Ellen walked into my office looking annoyed and confused. “I don’t know what to do. Robin invited me to her wedding and I don’t want to go, but I think I should. It’s ... Read More
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Three Ways to Cope with a Parter’s Sex Addiction Relapse
June 7, 2011 .
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Do you know the difference between a relapse and a onetime occurrence of making a poor choice? In asking that question, let me first say that it is important to not excuse a slip up or ... Read More
