Moving your body is a much faster and more reliable method for becoming grounded. Although movement in general is often helpful for restoring awareness to the body and breaking free of dissociation, centered and well-organized movement is even more useful.
Try the following experiments to see if you can notice the benefits of grounding movement:
People typically report that the second exercise helps them bring their surroundings into focus and reduces anxiety and fearfulness. They feel more grounded and less dissociated.
This works because it offers an organized and nonthreatening way to quite literally expand the body and bodily awareness.
Dissociation is a flight response to a perceived threat. Checking out, via either partial or total amnesia, or switching into another part of the self, makes awareness of the threat disappear. This is a very handy skill for small children who are not able to adequately protect themselves. This is less useful for adults who have developed habits of dissociating—whether the threat is present in the moment or remembered.
The problem with dissociation is that adults, who are capable of protecting themselves, lose access to that protective ability when they split. As a colleague of mine likes to say, if there’s a tiger in the room and you pretend it’s not there, that doesn’t actually make the tiger disappear. Dissociation doesn’t make you more safe, and it actually makes you less safe.
But, clients often tell me, if I don’t dissociate and I choose instead to be present, then I’ll be stuck in my fears—how does being petrified make me any safer? Good point, I reply. They’re right, after all. Being frozen with fear is not any more effective than dissociating is for dealing with that oncoming tiger. What is effective for safety is being present and grounded.
Here’s another experiment you can try which demonstrates this point:
In general, people report that when they’re afraid, their bodies constrict and collapse, their stomachs tighten, breathing becomes shallow, jaws clench, and they notice tension in their arms, chest, legs, and/or back. When doing the second exercise, they typically feel their bodies open up and relax.
The feeling of safety is a lot like the feeling created by the washing machine exercise at the beginning of this article. This suggests that being present in our bodies is the path to safety. Instead of having to only choose between dissociation and petrifaction, people working with dissociation can make use of movement to come into a state of groundedness and safety.
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