My Approach to Helping
I help couples see through the defensive posturing and game playing.that keep them from seeing who they really are and what they need emotionally from each other.
I believe it's crucial to help couples who have just fallen in love to understand that "New lovers are nervous and tender. They smash everything for their hearts are an organ of fire." - Michael Ondaatje, The English Patient.
I'm good at helping couples understand that a good fight always ends with improved understanding while a bad fight, like a weak scene in a movie, never gets to the point or to an emotional place where the two antagonist lovers touch each other's hearts.