Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
I am skilled in helping clients navigate a wide range of emotional, psychological, and relational challenges. My expertise includes working with individuals and couples facing communication issues, relationship problems, and intimacy concerns. I help couples strengthen their relationships by improving communication skills, resolving conflict, and rebuilding trust, especially in situations involving marital difficulties or sexual issues. As an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, I specialize in addressing a variety of sexual health concerns, including sexual orientation, sex addiction (sexual compulsivity), and supporting those in alternative relationships, such as polyamory and kink.
I also have significant experience working with clients who struggle with mental health concerns like anxiety, depression, anger management, and stress management. Whether it's learning how to manage overwhelming emotions or developing healthier coping strategies, I work with clients to build resilience and improve their overall mental well-being. Additionally, I help those struggling with substance abuse and behavioral addictions, offering tools to address these concerns in a compassionate and nonjudgmental way.
Therapy is also an excellent resource for those seeking to improve their self-esteem, confidence, and personal growth. I help clients gain a deeper understanding of themselves, develop new perspectives, and implement practical strategies that foster healthier relationships, emotional balance, and a more fulfilling life.
How Psychotherapy Can Help
Psychotherapy can be an incredibly powerful tool for anyone facing challenges in their personal or professional life. Whether you're dealing with relationship issues, anxiety, depression, anger management, or sexual concerns, therapy provides a safe, nonjudgmental space to explore your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. In my practice, I specialize in helping individuals and couples overcome communication problems, conflict resolution, and intimacy issues. As an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, I work with clients to address sexual difficulties, including concerns related to sexual orientation, sexual compulsivity (sex addiction), and navigating alternative, kink, and polyamorous relationships.
By engaging in evidence-based therapies such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, and the Gottman Method, I help clients develop practical tools to manage stress, improve communication, and work through deep-seated issues. Therapy isn?t just about addressing problems?it?s about fostering personal growth, building self-awareness, and empowering individuals to create positive change in their lives.
Whether you're struggling with mental health challenges, want to improve your sexual health, or simply need guidance on navigating life?s obstacles, psychotherapy can help you uncover new insights, find solutions, and lead a more fulfilling life. If you're ready to take the next step, I offer teletherapy services for greater convenience and flexibility, making it easier for you to prioritize your well-being.
My View on the Purpose of Psychotherapy
In my view, the purpose of psychotherapy is to help individuals and couples gain a deeper understanding of themselves and their relationships, fostering personal growth and emotional well-being. Therapy provides a space to explore thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that may be contributing to stress, anxiety, depression, or conflict. It?s a collaborative process where we work together to identify patterns and develop strategies to create positive change.
I believe psychotherapy is not just about addressing problems; it?s about helping people live more fulfilling and balanced lives. Whether you're facing challenges in communication, intimacy, anger management, or navigating complex issues like sexual concerns or relationship dynamics, therapy can provide clarity and direction. As an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, I am passionate about working with individuals and couples on a variety of sexual health concerns, including issues related to sexual orientation, sex addiction, and alternative lifestyles such as kink and polyamory.
Therapy is a powerful tool for building self-awareness, enhancing coping skills, and improving mental health. It can help you break free from unhealthy patterns, develop healthier relationships, and cultivate resilience. My approach is solution-focused and flexible, utilizing evidence-based methods like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, and the Gottman Method, all designed to achieve real, lasting results.
What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist
What I love most about being a therapist is the opportunity to help people make meaningful changes in their lives. Whether it?s guiding individuals through relationship issues, supporting couples in overcoming communication barriers, or helping someone work through anxiety, depression, or anger management, I find great satisfaction in seeing clients grow and thrive. I am deeply passionate about helping people improve their emotional health, communication skills, and overall well-being.
As an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, I particularly enjoy working with individuals and couples to address sexual concerns, such as sexual health, intimacy, and navigating alternative lifestyles like kink and polyamory. I love the opportunity to create a safe, nonjudgmental space where clients feel empowered to explore sensitive topics and make informed decisions about their lives.
Helping clients build self-awareness and develop practical tools to manage life?s challenges is incredibly rewarding. It?s a privilege to witness personal transformations, whether it?s overcoming obstacles, improving relationships, or gaining confidence in one?s ability to handle stress and emotional struggles. I believe in the power of therapy as a tool for growth, healing, and empowerment, and I?m honored to be part of my clients? journeys toward better mental health and more fulfilling lives.
My Role as a Therapist
As a therapist, my role is to provide a supportive and nonjudgmental space where clients can explore their thoughts, emotions, and behaviors to gain clarity and work toward personal growth. I specialize in helping individuals and couples navigate a wide range of challenges, including relationship issues, anxiety, depression, anger management, sexual concerns, and managing stress. Whether you are seeking support with communication problems, intimacy issues, or emotional health struggles, I am here to guide you through the process of healing and change.
My role is to be a collaborator, working with you to identify your goals and create a personalized therapy plan that aligns with your needs. I draw from evidence-based methods like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, the Gottman Method, and other therapeutic techniques to help you develop practical tools for managing life?s difficulties. As an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, I also specialize in sexual health and intimacy issues, including sexual orientation, sex addiction, and supporting clients in alternative lifestyles such as polyamory and kink.
Throughout the therapy process, I aim to empower you by offering guidance, empathy, and practical strategies that can be implemented in daily life. I am committed to fostering a safe, compassionate environment where you can work toward healing, growth, and achieving your personal and relational goals.
My Therapy Focus
My therapy focus is on helping individuals and couples overcome challenges that hinder their emotional, mental, and relational well-being. I specialize in a wide range of issues, including communication problems, relationship difficulties, anger management, anxiety, depression, sexual health concerns, and stress management. As an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, I have a deep focus on sexual concerns, helping clients navigate issues such as sexual orientation, intimacy difficulties, sex addiction (sexual compulsivity), and alternative lifestyles like polyamory and kink.
I use a solution-focused approach to therapy, emphasizing practical strategies and tools that clients can use to improve their daily lives. This includes helping clients develop healthier communication skills, cope with stress, manage anxiety, and address emotional and behavioral challenges in a supportive environment. I also work with clients on personal growth, building self-esteem, and overcoming obstacles that impact their mental health.
For couples, my therapy focus includes enhancing emotional intimacy, resolving conflicts, and improving overall relationship satisfaction. Using methods such as the Gottman Method, I help couples develop stronger communication, deeper understanding, and stronger emotional bonds. I aim to create a collaborative and nonjudgmental space where clients can feel empowered to make meaningful changes in their lives and relationships, leading to lasting improvements in both individual and relational health.
What I Usually Need to Know to Help
To effectively help a client, it's essential to understand their unique experiences, challenges, and goals. Each person comes with their own set of concerns, whether it's relationship issues, communication difficulties, sexual health, anxiety, depression, anger management, or navigating complex dynamics in alternative lifestyles such as polyamory or kink. In order to provide the best possible care, I focus on building a strong, trusting therapeutic relationship where clients feel safe to openly share their struggles.
It?s important for me to know about a client?s past experiences, current life situation, and any underlying factors contributing to their concerns. This includes understanding their emotional and mental health history, family dynamics, and any cultural or lifestyle factors that may influence their perspective. By actively listening and asking thoughtful questions, I gather insights that help me customize the approach to their needs.
I also need to know the specific goals a client has for therapy. Whether it's improving communication in relationships, addressing sexual difficulties, managing stress, or working through trauma, I tailor the therapy process to help them reach those goals. By understanding their motivations, challenges, and desires, I can create a personalized plan and use evidence-based methods like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, and the Gottman Method to guide them toward meaningful change.
My Guiding Ethical Principles
In my practice, I am deeply committed to providing therapy that is grounded in strong ethical principles. My approach is centered on respect, confidentiality, and integrity, ensuring that every client feels safe and heard throughout their therapeutic journey. I believe in fostering an environment of trust where you can feel comfortable discussing personal concerns, whether it's related to relationships, communication issues, anxiety, depression, anger management, or sexual health.
I adhere to strict confidentiality guidelines, respecting your privacy and ensuring that your personal information remains secure. This is essential in creating an open, nonjudgmental space where you can explore sensitive topics, including those related to sexual orientation, sexual compulsivity, and navigating alternative lifestyles such as polyamory and kink.
I also prioritize client autonomy and informed consent. I believe that therapy is a collaborative process, and it's important that you are fully informed about the methods, goals, and progress of your treatment. I work with clients to develop personalized therapy plans that align with their values and goals.
Additionally, I am committed to cultural competence and respect for diversity, recognizing that every client?s unique background, life experiences, and values play an important role in their healing and growth. Ethical practice, respect for individuality, and a focus on client empowerment guide everything I do.
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
Be proactive, instead of reactive. Many people wait until things become overwhelming, hoping that the problems will resolve themselves. But when you wait until things get even worse, it often becomes more difficult to address the underlying issues. The sooner you take action, the easier it can be to make meaningful changes and prevent small challenges from escalating into larger, more complicated problems. By seeking therapy early, you create an opportunity for growth, self-discovery, and healing that can have a positive impact on all areas of your life.
What do you have to lose by trying therapy? You might be surprised at what you can learn about yourself. Therapy is a space for you to explore your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in a way that promotes clarity and self-awareness. It?s not about judgment?it?s about understanding, healing, and developing the tools to navigate life with more confidence and balance. Many people leave their first session with new insights, a deeper understanding of their emotions, and a clearer path forward. You may uncover things that help you build better relationships, manage stress more effectively, or simply feel more at peace with yourself. Taking the first step toward therapy can be a game-changer in improving your well-being.
Had a Negative Therapy Experience?
I understand that many people may feel hesitant about therapy, especially if they've had a negative experience in the past. It?s important to know that not all therapy is the same, and finding the right fit can make a world of difference. If you've felt misunderstood or that your needs weren't fully addressed, I encourage you to give therapy another chance. My approach is personalized and flexible, focusing on your specific goals, whether you're dealing with relationship issues, anxiety, depression, anger management, sexual concerns, or navigating alternative lifestyles like polyamory or kink.
I strive to create a safe, nonjudgmental environment where you can openly share your thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment. If your previous experience felt impersonal or rigid, my approach might feel different. I use evidence-based methods, such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, and the Gottman Method, which are practical, goal-oriented, and designed to create real change. I want you to feel empowered, not just supported, and I believe in a collaborative approach where we work together to understand your unique challenges and create solutions that work for you.
Therapy should be a space where you feel heard, valued, and understood. If you're open to it, I?d be honored to help guide you toward healing, growth, and a more fulfilling life.
Important Factors for Choosing a Therapist
Choosing the right therapist is an important decision that can significantly impact the outcome of your therapy. Several factors should guide your choice to ensure you find a therapist who aligns with your goals and needs. One of the most important factors is finding a therapist who specializes in the areas where you need help, such as relationship issues, anxiety, depression, anger management, or sexual concerns. I specialize in couples therapy, communication issues, intimacy challenges, sexual health, and navigating alternative lifestyles like polyamory and kink, so I can provide targeted support for these concerns.
Another key factor is the therapist?s approach to therapy. Different therapists use different methods, so it?s important to find one whose approach resonates with you. I use evidence-based techniques like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, and the Gottman Method, which are goal-oriented and focused on achieving real, lasting change.
The therapeutic relationship is also vital. Feeling heard, respected, and understood is essential for progress. I work to create a nonjudgmental, empathetic environment where clients can feel comfortable sharing personal concerns. The flexibility of teletherapy?whether through phone or video conferencing?also offers convenience for clients with busy schedules, especially those who are traveling professionals. Ultimately, choosing a therapist who makes you feel comfortable, understood, and supported is crucial for a successful therapy experience.
How My Own Struggles Made Me a Better Therapist
My own personal struggles have deeply shaped the way I approach therapy and have made me a more empathetic and effective therapist. As an anxious person who struggled with anxiety from a young age, I understand how overwhelming it can feel to navigate life with persistent worries and fears. These experiences have given me a greater sense of compassion and insight into the challenges that clients face, whether it's dealing with anxiety, depression, relationship difficulties, or issues related to sexual health and intimacy.
Through my own healing journey, I learned the importance of self-awareness, emotional regulation, and resilience?skills that I now pass on to my clients. I understand that personal growth often involves facing uncomfortable truths and stepping outside of your comfort zone. As a therapist, I work to create a safe, nonjudgmental space where clients can explore their challenges without fear of judgment or criticism.
I believe that my struggles with anxiety have helped me relate to clients on a deeper level, especially those dealing with mental health concerns such as anxiety, anger management, or navigating alternative lifestyles like polyamory and kink. My experiences have taught me the value of perseverance, empathy, and the transformative power of therapy. It is these qualities that allow me to guide clients toward lasting change and fulfillment.
What I Say to People Concerned about the Therapy Process
If you're feeling concerned about the therapeutic process, I want you to know that you're not alone, and it's completely normal to have questions or uncertainties when starting therapy. It's important to remember that therapy is a safe, confidential space where you can express your thoughts, feelings, and challenges without judgment. My approach is collaborative and supportive; we work together to address your specific needs, whether you're dealing with relationship issues, anxiety, depression, sexual health concerns, or struggles with anger management.
You might be wondering how therapy will help, or if it will be too difficult or uncomfortable. I want to reassure you that change is a gradual process, and the goal is to help you gain insight, develop healthier coping strategies, and build resilience. Whether you're working through communication problems in your relationships, seeking guidance on intimacy issues, or addressing mental health challenges, the therapeutic process is designed to support your growth at your own pace.
If you're concerned about discussing sensitive topics, especially in areas like sexual health or alternative lifestyles, rest assured that I am an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist with experience working with diverse clients. Therapy is a place where your feelings are validated, and together, we can explore the path to a more fulfilling life.
Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed
I?ve learned through experience that I always get myself into trouble when I don?t consult with others before making major life decisions. It?s easy to get caught up in our own thoughts and emotions, believing we can figure everything out on our own. But the truth is, talking about your thoughts out loud with someone you trust is often surprisingly helpful. When we express our concerns, ideas, and uncertainties, we not only clarify our thinking but also gain valuable perspectives that we might not have considered on our own.
It actually takes a great deal of strength and humility to reach out to others and allow them to influence our decision-making process. It requires us to be vulnerable and open to feedback, even if it means potentially facing conclusions we?re not comfortable with or don?t want to hear. However, this willingness to consult others can prevent us from making decisions that may not be in our best interest. By involving others, we invite support, wisdom, and sometimes a dose of reality that can guide us toward more thoughtful, well-rounded decisions. It?s a reminder that no one has to navigate life?s challenges alone, and seeking guidance can be one of the most powerful tools for growth and making better, more informed choices.
Importance of the Client-Therapist Alliance
The client-therapist relationship is a cornerstone of effective therapy. A strong, trusting relationship between the therapist and client creates a safe space for clients to explore their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors without fear of judgment. Whether you are seeking help with relationship issues, sexual health concerns, anxiety, depression, or anger management, the therapeutic relationship plays a crucial role in the healing process. When clients feel understood and supported, they are more likely to engage fully in therapy and work toward their goals.
As a therapist, I am dedicated to creating a nonjudgmental, compassionate environment where clients feel comfortable discussing sensitive topics, such as sexual orientation, intimacy issues, and navigating alternative lifestyles like polyamory and kink. This trust allows for deeper exploration of the challenges you're facing, which is vital for creating lasting change.
I believe in a collaborative approach, where both the client and therapist work together toward the client's goals. The more open and honest the communication, the more effective the therapy process becomes. The relationship is not just about providing support, but also empowering clients to make meaningful changes in their lives. A positive therapeutic relationship helps clients develop self-awareness, build confidence, and achieve the personal growth they seek, leading to lasting improvements in their emotional and relational well-being.
My View on the Nature of 'Disorders'
In my view, the nature of disorders is complex and interconnected, and I approach them with a focus on understanding the whole person?mind, body, and spirit. Whether someone is struggling with anxiety, depression, anger management, relationship issues, or sexual concerns, I believe that these challenges are often rooted in deeper emotional, psychological, or relational imbalances that impact overall well-being. Disorders are not simply labels; they are signals that something in a person?s life may be out of harmony and needs attention in multiple areas.
I see therapy as a collaborative and holistic process where we explore these underlying issues, gain insight, and develop healthier ways of coping. For example, when working with clients facing substance abuse, sexual compulsivity, or mental health concerns, I emphasize the importance of integrating emotional, mental, and physical health. As an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, I also address sexual disorders, helping individuals and couples with intimacy concerns, sexual orientation, and navigating alternative lifestyles such as kink and polyamory.
I believe that no one should be defined by their disorder. Therapy is about creating a balanced path forward, building resilience, and helping individuals and couples reclaim control over their lives in a holistic way. It?s an opportunity for healing, growth, and the development of healthier thought patterns, behaviors, and overall wellness.
The Duration and Frequency of Therapy
The duration and frequency of therapy can vary depending on your individual needs, goals, and the challenges you're facing. In my practice, I offer a flexible approach to therapy that is tailored to each client. For some individuals and couples, short-term therapy may be sufficient to address specific issues such as communication problems, anger management, or relationship concerns. For others, particularly those navigating complex issues like sexual difficulties, anxiety, depression, or trauma, a longer-term commitment may be necessary to create lasting change.
Typically, I recommend starting with weekly sessions to build rapport and begin working on your goals. As we progress, the frequency of sessions may decrease to biweekly or monthly, depending on your progress and needs. My goal is to provide you with the tools and strategies to manage life?s challenges more effectively, while empowering you to feel confident in applying these tools outside of therapy.
For clients who require more flexibility, I offer teletherapy through phone or video conferencing, making it easier to schedule sessions that fit into busy lives, especially for individuals with demanding jobs, like traveling professionals or overbooked people. Regardless of the duration or frequency, therapy is a collaborative process designed to support your growth and well-being every step of the way.
What Makes up a Problem?
A problem is only a problem if it causes a problem. A problem arises when there is a disconnect between where you are in life and where you want to be. It often begins when you feel stuck, overwhelmed, or unable to cope with the challenges you're facing, whether those challenges are related to relationships, mental health, sexual health, or personal growth. In my practice, I help clients identify the root causes of their problems, whether it's communication breakdowns in a relationship, anxiety that limits daily functioning, or sexual difficulties that affect intimacy and connection.
Problems can stem from unmet emotional needs, unresolved trauma, unhealthy coping mechanisms, or unproductive patterns of behavior. They can also be linked to larger issues like stress, depression, anger management, or navigating alternative lifestyles such as polyamory or kink. Often, these problems are not just about what is happening in the present, but also about how past experiences or unaddressed emotions continue to impact your life.
By exploring these issues in therapy, we can gain clarity on the underlying causes and create a path toward resolution. My role is to work with clients to address these challenges through evidence-based techniques, including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, and the Gottman Method. Together, we can uncover the patterns and beliefs that create problems and develop strategies for making lasting changes to improve overall well-being.
