My Approach to Helping
My practice is specifically focused on couples work, as I believe strongly that relationships strike at the core who we are and how we learn about ourselves. Anytime we're triggered by our partner, despite being painful, it's a road map to what we still need to heal. Having been trained in the Gottman Method as well as Internal Family Systems, I utilize different approaches for different clients (as I don't always believe in a "one size fits all" method). No matter the type of model I use, I always stay curious about what keeps change elusive.
Most clients describe me as extremely "down-to-earth" and "genuine". When I first started, over 20 years ago, I was more like the therapists in the movies; sitting quietly and occasionally asking "how does that make you feel". As I've grown over the years, I've just learned to be much more myself; both in how I show concern, as well as how I speak. I think therapy works the best as a collaborative effort, with everyone in the room engaging the process as authentically as they can (and that includes the therapist).