My Approach to Helping
“Grief dares us to love once more.”- Terry Williams
Grief and loss come in many forms. There are times in our lives where grief is more acute; a loved one dies or a marriage dissolves, and we are forced to confront it. And then there are the many more subtle losses we encounter; the loss of self over time, the unmet needs from our childhood, the longing to be a part of something greater and deeper that pervasively haunt us. The longer I sit with people as a therapist, I find it always comes back to grief and finding ways to unblock our grief so we can comfort it, survive it, integrate it, and grow. When we stunt our grief we also stunt our growth. If change is the one constant, what if the whole point is learning how to grieve well? Through therapy we can learn to navigate your grief with so much self-kindness, self-comfort, radical acceptance, and find gratitude for what remains. If you choose love, then grief is here to stay. Let’s learn together how to be kind to your pain. We were never meant to grieve alone.
My name is Lauren Kilber and I am a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in the state of Kansas. I am currently a candidate in the Greater Kansas City Psychoanalytic Institute working towards my certification in psychoanalysis. I work with individuals 18 yrs and older struggling with grief, shame, depression, anxiety, and relationship issues. I utilize psychodynamic theory and attachment theory to gain insight into how our past relationships influence how we relate to ourselves and others in the present. I also teach mindfulness-based interventions as practical skills to help alleviate and regulate symptoms of depression and anxiety.
I would be honored to walk with you as we untangle the many losses in your life that have kept you feeling stuck. It is through the therapeutic relationship that we can learn to welcome, hold and metabolize your losses, and thus find the vitality waiting for you on the other side. If you are a curious, highly sensitive individual that longs to meet yourself at a deeper level, I think we could be a good fit. I look forward to hearing from you & supporting you on your path to healing.