My Approach to Helping
Behind the pain is a yearning, a longing for love, touch, security, and trust. Nurturing connection heals trauma because trauma is a violation of love. Having walked the path of couples therapy both professionally and personally, I invite you to an experience where change is not only possible but is the expected outcome. Your success in therapy is my mission and I'm abolutely relentless. If you're willing do the work, I will provide you with the roadmap and the necessary tools you need to get there.
In order to help you as a couple, I need to know you as individuals. A great understanding of the relational dynamic as well as the history of each individual is essential for meaningful interventions to have a lasting change. We often bring unhealed pain to our relationship and unless our partner can learn to be present with that pain in a loving way, we continue to miss a great opportunity for healing.
I am trained in the research-based Gottman Method which means that when you work with me, I spend time to get to know you both as an individual and as a couple. Couples I work with complete a comprehensive online assessment (The Gottman Checkup) and individual interviews before interventions are made. Secondly, I help you and your partner learn new ways of being together, not just new ways of communicating, but new ways of looking at and touching one another. Therapy with me will help you practice effective ways of rebuilding trust, improving communication, managing conflict and making successful repair.